Thread: Adultery, how can you say it is wrong?

Let's say you meet a "special" someone, but unfortunately he/she is still married. Now, barring the risk for violence, is there any real reason one shouldn't have an affair with him/her?

Is it my fault that she just happened to meet someone else before we met each other? Is the definition of "right" in the eyes of all those who condemn adultery, that whoever is first, is right? Finders, keepers?

I am sure that you could make an argument that the best option would be for her to tell her husband that it is over. But why would that be my business? Am I doing anything wrong, or is she the one doing her husband wrong?

It is so hard to find the right one. My impression is that most of the time, relationships are initiated because the girl fullfills minimum criteria of attractiveness, and that is the bottle neck. In that respect, give me one good reason why I should let a "perfect" woman go just because she happens to have been found by somebody else first.

Originally Posted by chu chu rocket

, give me one good reason why I should let a "perfect" woman go just because she happens to have been found by somebody else first.

Because she is an aldulterer.

Adultery is a term concieved by the greedy. 'Don't steal my wife or, or,... your an ADULTERER!!!'

The truth of the matter is, the only thing that keeps unions of marriage together is fear. Fear either from social pressure, financial failure, religious damnation, loneliness, etc. If you believe it is love that keeps people together, then it is the fear of never loving someone else as much.

If you have "met" a married woman, then she is obviously "fishing" for that other someone. It would be nice to think that she could just leave her husband before she finds another mate, but most people are more comfortable securing their future before changing the current situation.

Just don't let me catch you... I have a temper. :flickoff:

The other side of the coin is... She may be happy and would like to remind herself what it is like to fool with a looser. It reminds her that what she has is really worth keeping.

BadMFMike, couldn't you wait a couple of hours before posting something I 100% agree with? It is no fun when the discussion is killed like that. :hissy:

Sorry... Let's try it this way...

ADULTRY IS BAD, BAD, BAD!!! You should DIE just for thinking it!!! :sarcasm:

Better?

If you meet a married bitch who's bored and willing to have a relationship with you, then the day she gets bored with you she's fuckin me, don't say I didn't tell you so.

Originally Posted by BadMFMike

Adultery is a term concieved by the greedy. 'Don't steal my wife or, or,... your an ADULTERER!!!'

The truth of the matter is, the only thing that keeps unions of marriage together is fear. Fear either from social pressure, financial failure, religious damnation, loneliness, etc. If you believe it is love that keeps people together, then it is the fear of never loving someone else as much.

If you have "met" a married woman, then she is obviously "fishing" for that other someone. It would be nice to think that she could just leave her husband before she finds another mate, but most people are more comfortable securing their future before changing the current situation.

Just don't let me catch you... I have a temper. :flickoff:

The other side of the coin is... She may be happy and would like to remind herself what it is like to fool with a looser. It reminds her that what she has is really worth keeping.

Well gee I don't know because I have been married only 29 years and this December it will be thirty, but I like to believe that it takes a certain partnership with a common goal to keep a marriage together. In fact if you have those two basic understandings, the the marriage keeps itself together. Sure goals can change a bit, but the goal should remain almost the same.

Both my wife and I had an affair, it almost cost us our family. Again we looked at the goal and figured that a divorce would be an unacceptable way to achieve it. This happened when we were very young and have overcome it. I am sure that my wife has had plenty of opportunities, and I am sure that she handled them appropriately. For me, well I am 6" 7" and a carpenter. I used to like bars. I have had opportunities, some rather nice ones. But could not and would not. Being single is not going to work for me, as now we are raising our four year old Grand Daughter.

Our goals have come to a complete circle, and now starting all over again, same goal, different kid.

Ladies throw themselves at a guy your height, I've seen it.

Even without considering religion and/or morality (however you define that), adultery is wrong because it's hurtful to others.

Adultries never happen in a vacuum; other people are involved and affected by it, from the adulterer's mates to their children to their families to their co-workers and acquaintences. The pain caused can be, and often is, very intense and can lead to a hundred different bad outcomes from divorce to murder to life-long psychological problems.

Is the risk of all that really worth massaging your dick?

Originally Posted by Sparta

Ladies throw themselves at a guy your height, I've seen it.

You ain't kidding, and sometimes it is hard to resist. But I have to do a gut check, we raised 5 children, and now we have grand children. My wife and myself still and always will need to set an example.