Thread: Once a cheat, always a cheat?

I have a good friend whose husb cheated on her about 3yrs ago. They have/had a pretty good marriage, so when it happened it came as a complete shock. She went thru all the mind games

Am I not pretty enough?

Where am I lacking etc

Her husb assured her it was not her but him. He was hanging out with the wrong crowd,singles and other married men who did it regularly. So basically he was just "curious". She's forgiven him, but at the same time, she's suspect of his every move. I've tried telling her, she's going to run him out the door with the 50 questions, BUT didn't HE bring this on himself? Does he have the right to get angry when she asks "why are you late", "why didn't you answer the phone"

Could you stay married to someone you didn't trust?

adultry is just a symptom that there is something wrong in the relationship.
I found that many men have sexual addictions but they want to have the wife and family and American life

Originally Posted by patriotgrl

Could you stay married to someone you didn't trust?

no. not a chance.

No trust? Sounds miserable.

Originally Posted by patriotgrl

I have a good friend whose husb cheated on her about 3yrs ago. They have/had a pretty good marriage, so when it happened it came as a complete shock. She went thru all the mind games

Am I not pretty enough?

Where am I lacking etc

Her husb assured her it was not her but him. He was hanging out with the wrong crowd,singles and other married men who did it regularly. So basically he was just "curious". She's forgiven him, but at the same time, she's suspect of his every move. I've tried telling her, she's going to run him out the door with the 50 questions, BUT didn't HE bring this on himself? Does he have the right to get angry when she asks "why are you late", "why didn't you answer the phone"

Could you stay married to someone you didn't trust?

As far as I know my husband has never cheated & I don't know how I would handle it should that ever happen. However, I don't think I could live with someone I don't trust.

If there is enough fish in the lake, his rod will work without bait. Once a cheat, always a chance he will cheat again.

Getting angry has nothing to do with being allowed to get angry. You get angry, period. Its not a contemplated reaction. I would get mad as well, if I had a controlling wife. No matter how understandable.

They should become swingers. At least that way they wouldn't have to worry about cheating.

Originally Posted by TenGig

They should become swingers. At least that way they wouldn't have to worry about cheating.

I've heard that works for some couples.

Originally Posted by sectionOne

I've heard that works for some couples.

Who ever said we HAD be monogamist (well, besides for my girlfriend)

I can tell youre younger than me, you hit a certain age, and it's not old either, and you don't want to be fuckin with any more chicks than you have to.